|Me & B - San Francisco, Dec. 2012
Boy, it's been a while - how are YOU?
If I'm being honest, 2012 pretty much sucked.
Don't get me wrong - lots of GOOD things happened. Work is great. My home is great. I'm seeing a wonderful guy. Most importantly, B is great!
The #1 best thing that happened in 2012 - and just under the wire - I'm divorced!! I know it sounds terrible to make that a good thing that happened, but it was something that should have happened a LONG time ago. I'm not against marriage, don't get me wrong, I'm just against marrying the wrong person. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and that I am finally living an authentic life.
But the best thing I got from my marriage was Miss B - ain't she just the coolest (I know all moms say this, but I think THIS photo proves that maybe I'm not merely biased:
|B looking sassy before dinner, Dec 2012
We had an allergy checkup in December that showed B's allergy as definitely NOT being gone. PLUS we added cats officially to the allergy list. Oh well. At least we haven't added any foods - and we were reaction free in 2012 - well at least peanut allergy wise - woohoo!
I think the thing that 2012 taught me most was that you can never get too comfortable with anything or assume anything. Case(s) in point:
- I assumed B's peanut allergy would be gone at this year's appt. I was wrong (and there was a HUGE wheal to prove it on the SPT). Crud.
- I assumed that during my divorce things would remain civil with my ex (they didn't)
- I assumed our collective friends would be grownups and remain friends with us both (they didn't)
- I assumed I could count on the very close friends I had to watch my back (I couldn't - in fact, one of them is dating my ex-husband now. I know quite a few of you are saying to yourself "what a @!#!@%" - you wouldn't be the first to do so. Yes we were friends when they started seeing each other and yes she kept it from me and NO we aren't friends anymore LOL). I think out of everything, this was the worst betrayal of the whole divorce, isn't that strange?
But you know what? I have ZERO regrets about how things have gone down. I'm so much happier, and lighter now that I know where things stand (plus un-friending on Facebook helps!). Quality over quantity!
So now, I'm starting with a clean slate for 2013. I'm figuratively burning the sage around here to cleanse my life, my heart, and my most important my attitude about things (this, especially, spoke to me). I'm responsible for me this year, no one else is.
And that, friends, is my rant.
Yeah, I know this didn't have much to do with Peanut Allergy on the surface, but my divorce isn't much different from peanut allergy. It's a crap hand to have dealt to you and what makes all the difference is how you handle it. No one understands it until they've been through it, family and friends disappoint you like crazy, and you feel alone. A lot.
But you figure out your way, slowly, until that pinhole at the end of the tunnel gets bigger and bigger.
And it's light again.